The Big Peace

My big leap

I've just read my last post.

Perhaps I have come a long way in 30 days????

I'm no longer searching...I'm choosing....? That's a big leap.

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The Law of Attraction

There has been a lot of fuss about a new book called The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, which talks about the 'law of attraction.'

I came across this 'law' years ago in a book by Esther and Jerry Hicks called Ask and It is Given. (Hay House)

According to the 'law of attraction', thoughts have an energy that attracts like energy. In order to control this energy, we must practice four things:

1. Know what one desires and ask the universe for it. (The "universe" is mentioned broadly, stating that it can be anything from God to an unknown source of energy.)
2. Focus one's thought upon the thing desired with great feeling such as enthusiasm or gratitude.
3. Feel and behave as if the object of one's desire is already acquired.
4. Be open to receiving it.

What a belief system! An interesting one to adopt? What do you think? I asked one of my clients to read the 'Ask and it is Given' book and to write a review, after trying on the belief system for size - here's what she said:

"There are very few books in my experience which make you feel better about life. Ask and it is Given, however, is one of them. This book helps you identify exactly what it is you really want right now and then provides all the necessary tools and processes you need to acquire it.

I’ve no idea how manifestation works, all I know is that it does. After focusing on a diamond ring I wanted, you can imagine my surprise when only one week later I was proposed to with the diamond ring of my dreams. The secret, I believe, is truly believing that you deserve to have it and then imagining that it’s about to be delivered to your door at any moment." Sarah, film-maker.

The law of attraction - could this be a peaceful way of living our lives? I know that it can sometimes have the opposite effect ie. "I've been forcing myself to think positive thoughts but I still haven't got what I want....it's not working! this/my life is rubbish," I've heard people say.

Maybe that happens because we're going about it in the 'if I do this.....i will get that......" mindset. The idea of feeling peaceful is to feel peaceful (or content) whatever happens versus 'I'm only going to focus positively/think feel-good thoughts if it's going to manifest me great riches'. The focus is surely to feel content anyway versus giving to get. If like attracts like, then that mindset isn't exactly the most attractive one! The 'great riches' are just a bonus, surely?

When I ask my clients what they want....they will often come up with a list.......a yacht....a day off......to be out of debt.......whatever....Then I ask them "what will it give you?"

Their answers vary from everything to freedom, to love to security. This is what they REALLY want. So the first thing we do is have them focus on that. If they can make the leap and realise that they have the access to that emotion RIGHT NOW, then the manifesting the yacht is just a matter of time and taking the right actions.

The Big Leap is realising that the yacht won't give you freedom, it will just take them from A to B and will probably be great fun to sail. However, they can have freedom in their life right now by changing the way they think.

Freedom....happiness....love - it's an internal state. As Michael Neill said in our recent interview, it's a choice we can make right now. He's right. YOu can be happy...at peace right now.

Let's do it. Think of someone or a place or a time when you felt happy/peaceful/free.....what does it feel like? Where are you feeling it in your body? Let that feeling expand up, down and sideways, let it flow out the top of your head, through your feet. You are free. Already. Now. It's a choice you can make right now in the present.

And then you can decide if you still want to save for that yacht.

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We have a winner of the napping competition!

Rosseen is the winner or the napping competition.

At the beginning of The Big Peace programme - I challenged everyone to brag about their best nap. Rosseen's husband's guilty nap with Archers made me laugh the most so he is officially the winner! Although I suspect it'll be Rosseen that i'm coaching.

Congratulations. You win me. Or a coaching session with me!

Why do I think napping is a skill to be developed and lauded? Probably because if you're a good at naps, you're probably also great at giving yourself permission to get off the busyness treadmill, to sink back and relax. In a world that celebrates the 24/7 availability and pert posture, it shows great strength, self-value to switch off and know that it's Ok to dribble and snore every now and again.

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Steven Sashen Interview

I promised the Stephen Sashen interview today and here it is

Enjoy!

Suzy x

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It's the Golden Ticket launch, not lunch!

I've had load of people emailing me about the golden ticket lunch.

It's a typo! It's supposed to say....Golden Ticket launch, not lunch!!! (I'm a terrible cook so it's a good job really)

The Golden Ticket launch is when we release some 'coaching tickets' which are 6 x half hour telephone coaching sessions for £250 over a period of 6 months. Sessions to be taken as and when you want. With me.

I did my first Golden Ticket pilot in March and I released 20 tickets. And I have realised that of all the ways I have tried to coach....this seems to have worked best for my clients - short power bursts of coaching every 4 weeks or so and then you're off!

So, another big leap for me, I've decided that this is the only way I'm going to coach (versus doing one to one coaching where people can hire me anytime) I am going to release Golden Tickets every 6 months.

But I won't cook you lunch! (this is a very good thing!!)

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Steven Sashen: the anti-guru

10 days ago I was struggling with my meditation and Tim Rowe, a lovely Big Peacer suggested I looked up Steven Sashen and his meditation techniques.

I was a tad resistant....another 'guru' promising enlightenment through meditation????....then I discovered his 'anti-guru' blog and laughed a lot.

So tried it out and loved  it - you don't have to sit in any funny positions, you don't have say any mantras....you can do it on the bus, at the dinner table, in the bath.....

I've just interviewed him and he took me through one of his meditations. Wonderful.

I will post it tomorrow.

Suzy x

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I am feeling very peaceful

I am! We're in the last week of the 30 day Big Peace programme and I am definitely feeling more peaceful.

How do I measure that? I'm not so irritable with my husband, I am loving with being with my son....(i had a blissed out moment in Princess Diana Gardens in London), my eating habits and coffee consumption seem to be OK......even when faced with doing my tax. Something is working.

It's that old adage....what you focus on expands.

And Michael Neill's word's keep coming back to me......'peace is not a destination, you can feel peaceful now' and then he took us through that exercise. Do listen to his inspired interview.

and also Rachel Pryor's words - is your heart at peace or at war? just noticing when I'm 'at war' really helps.

All good in this moment.

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Transformation machine....

Recently, on my journey to do more of what I really want to do (following my own flow) I've started to be more creative and am attempting to write a little bit of fiction.

I was inspired by a Screenwriting course I attended in Cornwall led by Hollywood Guru Blake Snyder - quite possibly the loveliest man to walk the planet . And not at all how you'd expect a Hollywood guru to be (I thought he'd have a cigar, wear an Indiana Jones hat and spit expletives at you) But no, Blake was this incredibly gentle and inspirational human being - who has created a brilliant structure for story-telling.

(Blake wrote bestselling Save the Cat!: The Only Book on Screenwriting You'll Ever Need: The Last Book on Screenwriting You'll Ever Need and now his second book Save the Cat! Goes to the Movies: The Screenwriter's Guilde to Every Story Ever Told is about to be published. If you want any inspiration on how to write your story/someone else's story/a best-selling story - this man knows what he is talking about. Read these books)

I just wanted to share this post to Blake's blog: It's about transformation:
"All stories are about transformation," writes Blake.

!All stories are the caterpillar turning into a butterfly in some sense. All stories require a death and rebirth to make that painful and glorious process happen.

And it occurs in movies… and in life.

We transform every day, re-awaken to new concepts about the world around us, overcome conflict, and triumph over death… only to start again each morning.

It’s why stories that follow this pattern resonate. Because each day is a transformation machine, and so are our lives."

Each day is a transformation machine. I love that.

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More meditation

Tim Rowe kindly invited me to try out this meditation technique after reading about my struggles earlier this week.

He warned me about the 'hypey' way it's introduced but encouraged me to go beyond it and listen to the free meditation. It has been created by mediation teacher Steven Sashen - perhaps we can interview him for the blog?

I've just been trying it this evening and have felt very peaceful. There is free recording and class at http://advancedmeditation.com/cmd.php?af=569450

Would love to hear any feedback.

Suzy x

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You're already there.

So if you've listened to the Michael Neil interview, you'll hear that I got the name of his book wrong. I called it 'Finding Happiness Now'.

It's called 'Feel Happy Now'. In that mistake.... was the biggest shift I could make., said Michael

If I'm forever seeking happiness or peace.... I'm making the assumption that happiness or peace is outside of myself - that it's something to get/achieve.... versus knowing that it's a choice. To feel happy now. And then he took us through a simple exercise where he asked us to think of someone we loved and let that feeling spread until it filled our body. Look, he said, you can feel happy and peace right now.

And he was right. There I was feeling happy right now.

It's about practice, said Michael. Often we have a default setting which could be anxiety or sadness or anger. and we're unused to feeling good. So we have to work at feeling good. It's a choice we make in that moment.

And that is perhaps where I've been going wrong. I'm a great wallower. I do make up big stories in my head and then wallow about how that makes me feel. My husband has just bought his second motorbike (mid-life crisis???!!!) but someone how I made up this whole story that it was all about me...that he was driving away from me (literally) and he didn't love me any more.

Obviously, huge rows ensued..... he couldn't understand why I was getting so upset about the motorbikes.... (Couldn't he read my mind???) and why I was so angry... (I couldn't say the words 'I'm afraid that you don't love me anymore' because that would show me up as being needy so I chose to be angry/self righteous instead)

And that's what I mean by wallowing. It's not even wallowing about something real that's happened. Maybe I will chose to wallow and be sad if my dog dies or something bad happens. But I chose to wallow about events that are not even real???

I think Byron Katie's worksheets have definitely helped me this month to question my stories.

And what I'm realising is that inner peace is a choice. and it's quite hard work early on. And I suppose, I thought...I'd be hit my a thunderbolt and I'd be peaceful, smiling and happy (ie something outside of me would come and change me from above!)But it's a moment by moment practice and I have to do it versus waiting to be transformed either by meditation or by a guru or a new whistling technique.


What I'm realising too.....I'm ashamed to say that there is a part of me that enjoys some of my dramas....by kicking off with my husband, he's ultimately had to reassure me that he does love me but surely there was a more peaceful way to get that piece of information??? There can be pay-offs to my dramas. But how I went about it was very costly for everyone.
I can't remember who said...that we only drop old behaviours when there ceases to be any pay-off?

Do listen to the Michael Neil interview below if you can. It really is brilliant - because it's simple but quite profound too.

Suzy x

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