What went well today?

Big Peace December Day 20

I'm just gearing up to the 23rd December where I'm meeting with my closest girlfriends to have a Christmas dinner and a end of year review. We are asking the following:

2008 was the year of..................
(What will you remember 2008 for?)
What did you learn about yourself and life in 2008?
What made you happiest in 2008 and how you can do more of that in 2009?
What was the biggest leap you made in 2008 and what did you learn from that?
What is your greatest wish for 2009?

We are going to be creating 'vision boards' for 2009 - my poor girlfriends! all they wanted to do was have a glass of champagne and a gossip.

But it is a really great exercise to do at this time of year.

It's been rather a big year for me in terms of learning and leaping. In May, I made a big decision to leave my 15 year marriage, I've found a new path in The Big Peace, I'm creating new projects and businesses and I'm learning about the power of love and how it can transform the most horrible of situations. And when we drive our life from our Big Peace place (where our inner coach resides) then everything is really Ok, despite grief and lots of snot and tears.

I am alone for the first time in my adult life but feel more connected and loved than I have ever felt.  And that's quite a big ask. My parents died when I was younger so I don't have a traditional safety net to support me, my poor brother and sister-in-law are going through their own crisis right now as my beautiful sister in law Paula is battling breast cancer for the second time and about to embark on  her second chemotherapy session on Christmas Eve.

It's a big year for me and my family, facing big life and death questions. Which has led me only to dive more deeply into The Big Peace place. I am no good to anyone when I operate from fear and seperation. I can only do what I can do - I'm very human, as you know but if we can leap from fear into our Big Peace place, then I feel miracles can happen and they DO happen.

I always thought I would be serene, organised, tidy and floating round in a white gown smiling and hearing piped angel music when I found my Big Peace. But no, life is still a confused jumble, hectic, messy, snotty with pizza stains down the front of that metaphorical white dress. But I have never felt so alive or so connected, so sure that whatever happens I'm living the life I was meant to live. With lots of wobbles, sobbing and leaping back into fear in between.

Diving into The Big Peace is my intention for 2009. And I'm staying in the Big Peace bath as long as I can - even when my fingers go wriggly.

A short exercise today. You can do the above or just simply ask this one:

Studies by one of the 'happiness scientists' Martin Seligman at
University of Pennsylvania found that taking time each day to write
down a trio of things that went well and why, works brilliantly to
make us feel better about life.

 "Our studies show people are less depressed and happier three
 months later and six months later, " he says.

Create a daily habit and start today - ask yourself:

"What went well today and why?"

Comments

[Emma Bibby]

Just to say, as always - I think you're fantastic! Brave, honest, open, wonderful - and above all...human! Am thinking of you and wish you a happy Christmas, and a fabulous 2009!

I also hope Paula's chemotherapy goes well for her, and that she can successfully visualise the cancer disappearing too!

Lots of love - Emma xx

[Sandra]

I'm definitely going to try this one!